Is It a Kernel of Truth, or Jealousy?

G'Afternoon Kids & Porn Stars.... It's been a while since I really, really bitched about something or was genuinely PO'd. Well, all good things come to those who wait, I guess. People really piss me off. I have this friend who I won't name here. I know she doesn't read this, but still, I will keep her name to myself (if you really need to know her name, drop me a line). This aggravation with her has been a long time coming. I mean, we had a "falling out" once before (see this old post) and she apologized, but I never really fully accepted the apology (I know, this is my issue). One of the first times I ever really went out with her, she said, "I don't really have a lot of good girlfriends." I should have taken that as a hint, but I remembered back to the time when I wasn't surrounded by the great group of girls I have now - and I love all of them :). After that night, we became fairly close and after The OC was canned, I started having lunch with her and her "group." At first it was fun - we all busted on one another while we got to know each other and we became a regular group - having lunch together every day. Here and there, I would get attitude about wanting to go out with others or wanting to work through lunch. Then I the falling out occurred and I was just getting generally tired of having lunch with them. When I tried to "break ties" from eating with them every day, I was welcomed with attitude and, "Why don't you WANT to eat with us??" So, I continued - even though one of the people at lunch irked me (not the person in question - this other woman who had such a high opinion of herself and down talked my friend The OC. I didn't like her talking about my buddy, so I had enough. However, I got through it and continued to eat lunch with them... I digress.) Now, since I started sitting with them at lunch, they (the girlfriend and this guy we eat with) would say things like, "You're a pity invite. We really don't want you eating with us." And I would say, "That's fine by me, just stop coming by my desk every day at 1 to 'pick me up' and we won't have a problem. And please stop e-mailing me all morning to find out if I am 'still coming' to lunch." Then they would laugh and think that their joke was the best thing since sliced bread. After about 2-3 months of this, it's getting REALLY old. Now, when I hang out with this person outside of work, something usually happens that becomes "a story" that gets passed around the office. And every time there is a story, she puts a negative spin on it that puts me in a "bad light" if you will. (i.e. - When we went to the city to see a show and the people behind me were being rude, she told everyone how I "started a huge fight in the middle of a comedy club." This is so far from the truth. Two weekends ago, we went to another comedy club and my co-worker CT came and sat with us (it was to support a fellow co-worker). She starts telling a story about how I accused her of being a brown noser when she first started. I NEVER said that. I told her a certain other person (VSP) said that about her. So I spoke up and she got all defensive. I don't get why she insists on trying to make me look bad. It's frustrating and annoying and I am getting really sick and tired of it. Everyone who knows me, knows I bust balls. ALL THE TIME. This is my schtick - if you will. It always seems as though everyone at the table busts on her. However, I am usually the only one she gets pissy with. Which is (again) aggravating and frustrating. Then last week, I got attitude because I didn't call her or e-mail her when I was home sick. (I need to keep her abreast of my schedule now? What happened to friends calling friends to see if their OK when they don't show up to work??) Meanwhile, the day BEFORE I was sick she was nasty and bitchy to me again. Why would I want to call or e-mail her? Then when I came back to work, she asks me, "Why are you so quiet lately? Is it because you're fighting with DB? That's what I assumed." Why would she assume I am fighting with DB?? And I not the kind of person to take it out on others - why can't she see that I am just sick and tired of being her punching bag?? ARGH!

Then today, she e-mails me (as usual), "Are you coming to lunch today?" I had nothing better to do and it's cold outside, so I said, "Sure, why not?" Sure enough, around 1 she comes by and says, "Are you coming," as she passes my desk. I respond, "Yep," as I realize she is going to the front desk to drop something off. So I wait. And wait. She didn't come back. So I get my wallet and go into the hallway. They are no where to be found. So I figure, "F it, if they can't wait, I'll do something else." So I go to the cafe, get something to eat and head back upstairs. My cell rings. It's her. She leaves a VM, "Uh, why did you go upstairs? We are waiting for you downstairs." Ummmmm, OK. Every time we've eaten together we've always gone down together, all of sudden they disappear and I am supposed to go running around looking for them? So not worth it. And now that I've vented, I am so done with this. And being that all this shit is a culmination of her and her behavior, I think I might be done with her.