Friday, September 29, 2006

Flowers? For Me?

That's right Kids, DB sent me flowers at work today. I REALLY love this boy!!! The card read:
"Dear Baby,
Happy one month anniversary. See you tonight!


How sweet is he????
10-4 over and out.

Thursday, September 28, 2006

What Goes Up..... Stays Up.

G'evening Kids & Porn Stars.... I am VERY excited and SO tired tonight. There are so many things I could/should be doing right now (i.e. preparing for my FIRST Fantasia home party that goes down tomorrow night!) However, I am so tired that all I can do is blog, LOL, as I wait for my man to come by. So, I must recap my wonderful weekend with DB before a new weekend starts....
Friday - Headed over to WP's with DB for SVU's b-day. The cop in him came out when we got to the area we'd be hanging out in (I felt so safe, LOL). We arrived a little late (due to his time constraints, LOL), but he got to meet Blade, Lore, and SVU which was nice. I was told later on that I was "not myself" at the party - I was "very subdued." We stayed for about 1 1/2 hours and then left. DB was not feeling well and we had another party we needed to stop by. We headed to Tappan and I finally got to really meet "R" his best friend. We stayed for a drink (or two) and then headed back to my place where we proceed to watch some Howard T.V. and talk :)

Saturday - Woke up early - I just can't seem to sleep much lately. I honestly don't remember what I did all day. I think I shopped with Mama Dukes and just waited around for the boy to call me. He came by around 10 and we were off to see Jackass Part 2 (Hilarious). When he arrived, he was a bottle of wine or so deep. It was cute to see him drink, but he really shouldn't have driven. We stopped for fuel and ran into his buddy "R" again. After the movie we headed back to my place and watch t.v. and relaxed (and had a few beers).

Sunday - I spent the day relaxing and the boy had to go back to work, so I didn't see him. :(

So, here we are, another Friday here and tonight is my big Sex Toy Party. A few people have dropped out. I dropped quite a few dollars on food and drink and I feel like I am not 100% prepared, but I am excited. I am hoping for some big sales and a fun time for all. Then I am heading over to the 'Burg to see my man plan in his second band. He came over last night (again - he was over Wed. night for a little while before work too) and it was two great nights in a row. I <3 my boy. Tomorrow is Lori's housewarming party, so I need to purchase a gift ASAP.

Anywho, before I get caught online, I must get going. 10-4 over and out.

Friday, September 22, 2006

"Even Your Hair Looks Fluffier...."

G'morning Kids & Porn Stars - TGIF! I finally got to see my Kel-Kel the other night (Yea!) I was going through withdrawal - it had been about 2 weeks I think?? Anyway, Wed. night she came by my place and we headed out for some pizza eats. After that, we headed down to NJ for some clothing shopping and $200 later I have some nice new Fall outfits. ;) Everything fits great, which just reiterates that I am in fact losing weight. (Turns out DB is a member at PF and I think we might start working out together.... LOL) My Kel-Kel said that she has never seen me so happy - that I am probably not eating because I am in love - and that "Even (my) hair looks fluffier!" I don't think I have ever been this happy. However, due to a certain issue, I decided to accept a date with Dr.'s Office Boy. We were supposed to go out Thursday night, but when he never called, I deemed it a blessing in disguise. Then he called around 7PM and I ignored the call. I don't want to do anything to screw this up with DB.

So, last night at 8PM to see him play baseball over in the 'Burg. I was a little intimidated when I got there... I wasn't sure what to expect. However, I finally got out of the car and he came over to greet me. At first, I wasn't sure he was happy to see me, but then we started talking and I knew he was happy. :) I watched his team get spanked 25-5, LOL. Most of his team members were really nice to me and they all complimented my staying power as a fan (since it was 12 degrees last night. OK, it was 60 degrees, but I am always cold, remember? LOL). I hung in as long as I could and by the 9th inning and they only had one out and still had last licks coming up, I just couldn't take it anymore. It was nice to see him catch and play in the out field, but the cold weather was doing me in. I left around 10:45 and picked us up some beers and went back to my place. About 20 minutes later he came by and we chilled with Mama Dukes for a bit and then watched some Howard on Demand.

We wound up talking for a half hour about some thing - one being my date that never was. I felt like I needed to be honest with him. It is so nice to talk to someone who can be serious and can joke. We talked about some other serious things going on with us.... I just love talking to him.... Then kissing ensued and I just can't get enough of his kisses. Then something slipped out.... I was laying on his chest and I uttered, "I just love you." Ughhhhhh. Damn beer. He hugged me and didn't say it back, but I know what he is thinking and what he is feeling (I can't really get into it here...) I know I am moments away from hearing it out of his mouth. I think I fell asleep because the next thing I knew, he was saying to me, "I should get going.... It's late." It was 3:30AM. I walked him out and he was gone. I wish he could spend the night, but that is all in due time :).

When I got to work this morning, there was an e-mail from him saying how happy he was that we talked, how relaxed he feels in my home, asking me which uniform I prefer - the police officer or the baseball player, and telling me he will see me tonight for SVU's b-day. He passed the mom test, now it's time to meet some of the friends.... LOL.

I am SO exhausted - I am sure there is more to write, but I really just need a nap right now. I'll update you kids later. ;)

Wednesday, September 20, 2006

A Great Day Indeed!

G'afternoon Kids & Porn Stars.... I LOVE BEING OFF FROM WORK! Last night DB stopped by before his shift <3 and we chatted for a bit. He then headed off to work knowing that today he would be coming by this morning. :) I slept well knowing this. Mama Dukes came home last night and I told her it would be an early morning for her today, LOL. Around 10AM he called (after his breakfast party with his "Crew") and he came by shortly after. Mama Dukes stuck around - she was dying to meet him. Oddly enough, they really hit it off. She left shortly after that and then he and I listened to Howard on my computer and talked about my upcoming court appearance in the afternoon. I had to be there at 12:30, so he walked me out to my car and followed me to the court house to make sure I got there OK. Lucky me to have met such a sweet guy, he got the ticket and all fines waived. :) I <3 this boy! He must rank fairly high because the DA walked in my paperwork and personally spoke to the judge. So here I sit, counting down the minutes until I see him again (hopefully tonight after I have din-din with my Kel-Kel). Mama Dukes just phoned me to say, "I really wanted to hate him because of his situation, but I absolutely LOVED him. I can see why you are so crazy about him and I can definitely see you two together." Awwwwwwwe. I really hope this one works out. I'm on cloud nine. 10-4 over and out.

Tuesday, September 19, 2006

Our First Fight?

G'morning Kids & Porn Stars.... Happy Tuesday (I am off tomorrow - yea!! Not for fun reasons, but a day off from work is a great day indeed.) Actually, the morning half will be fun.... DB will be coming over after his shift to nap with me for a bit (how cute is he??)

So, last night he stopped by before his shift and we ran some errands (he brought me bottled water, too cute). After the errands, we went back to my place and talked. The talk turned into a big, deep, conversation about marriage and children and what we are both looking for and want. We aren't in 100% agreement and then he had to leave for work, so we left things open. And hour later, he called me and we talked some more. I wound up in tears as we discussed how much we are crazy for one another, how scared we both are, and what we want right now and for the future. We both hung up thinking it was over or going to be over with us, but not wanting that to be the case. We decided to leave things as they are and talk again when we see one another.... This conversation was best left as an in person conversation.
So, this morning I e-mailed him the following:
Hi..... I don't know if last night constitutes as a "fight" per se, but whatever it was, I am glad we worked through it and things are a little bit clearer now (at least when it comes to you understanding my position and that you realized I am not trying to marry you after 2 1/2 weeks - just that I would like to at one point get married to someone, LOL). Anyway, enough about that. Are you coming by again tonight?

I miss you.

I didn't hear back from him and I worried. Then, I received the following e-mail from him:
"Hi girlfriend... A fight? No way lol. That was just two intelligent people that feel comfortable enough with each other to speak their minds, which is an important element of a healthy relationship. Do I sound like Dr. Phil yet? Seriously, I'm so glad that we can talk about things that matter to us. I would never want to be with anyone that I couldn't do that with. And I always want you to tell me what you're feeling, good or bad. Honestly, I was scared that you were going to make a decision about me based on what we talked about. I'm really happy that you're willing to give me a chance and to see how things go. You've become an important part of my life in a short time which says a lot. I know I'm tight lipped sometimes about things but I want you to know that I am crazy about you too! I want you to be happy and if I make you happy then I want to be there with you for the ride. OK?"

He wrote some more things, but those were REALLY private, so I will keep those to myself. ;) I am so totally head over heels for this guy, you just have no idea. I <3 DB.

Julio - where is my PBA from you??? 10-4 over and out.

Monday, September 18, 2006

Where Have All My....

Commenters gone?? I've gotten no responses lately - are you people still reading me?? LOL.

10-4 over and out.

Sunday, September 17, 2006

Is God Playing a Cruel Joke? LOL

G'Afternoon Kids & Porn Stars.... So, as I told you, I have a kidney infection. So the other day while I was at the Dr.'s office, before DB showed up, I mentioned that this guy sat down next to me and started talking to me. I saw him before he left and he told me to have a great weekend and he was off.

Turns out, he's been e-mailing me for the last few weeks on He e-mailed me this morning and mentioned how we had already met and reminded me that I "helped" him get a sick note. Now he wants to get together - gave me his phone #. Had I cancelled my Match subscription as I planned, I never would have known. But I never got around to canceling my subscription....

How weird is this?? How cruel a joke is this?? He's Irish, in law enforcement, cute, tall, single - all the things I normally look for in a guy. Ugh....

I spent last night with DB and it was the best of the best (again). We both agreed that every time we get together that it just gets better and better and we are starting to miss one another wildly when we aren't together. I <3 him, but he isn't 100% available. What should I do?? :( I saw his band last night and I was so happy to just be watching him play. And, I resisted all temptations to drink!!

I woke up this morning to an e-mail from him, "I will be thinking about you today... All day. ;)" How adorable is he? He understood why I couldn't come to his gig today - it would just be too hard on me. I'm hoping he does a stop by tonight.

10-4 over and out.

Saturday, September 16, 2006

A Thoughtful Gesture....

G'morning Kids & Porn Stars... It's sssooo early this rainy Saturday morning and I am wide awake. Over the last few days I realized I might be coming down a bladder infection (Yuck!). However, Thursday night my left side started to hurt and I realized it might be my kidney's instead.... (Ouch!) When I went out with DB Thursday night we talked about it and he seemed so concerned (so cute). Friday AM it was much worse and I realized it was time to head to the Dr. So after work, off I went. It's a walk in place, so I settled into my seat and read some magazines. This guy sits down next to me and we start chatting. Turns out he's a correction officer... Totally flirting with me - tells me where he hangs out. All I could think about was DB. :) The guy finally went into the office. I look outside to check on the rain and I see a familiar car circling the lot. It pulls up to my car and slows down. It's DB. The night before I told him where my Dr.'s office was. A few minutes later he came inside. He wanted to make sure I was OK.... HOW FRIGGIN CUTE AND THOUGHTFUL IS HE??? I don't think that even in my wildest dreams about the love of my life I would have ever assumed this. He waited while I went in and got checked out (it's either a kidney infection or kidney stones - lovely) and then we just hung out for a while talking (he had to be somewhere at 9). It was nice to see him for the few short hours I did. Plus we cleared up some things and now I have a label. "Girlfriend." Awwwwwwwe, LOL. He had to go back to work that night after a 10 day vacation, so seeing him will be getting harder, I really need my own place ASAP. Getting that roomie I talked about might actually be in the works, as much as I hate to rent. Anywho, he didn't want to stop by my place that night when he was on duty because he wanted me to be rested up for his gig tonight (Saturday night) and healthy for his other gig (Sunday afternoon). Of course, if I find a roomie, I would sssooo need to stay in this area ;) for those midnight drop by's. I <3 this boy!!! 10-4 over and out.

Friday, September 15, 2006

It Just Keeps Going and Going....

G'Afternoon Kids & Porn Stars.... Happy Friday! So last night I spent the evening with DB again and again it was a fantastic time. I could never before imagine myself being so at ease with someone like I am with him. When something is on my mind, he can tell. And we talk about it. And there is no joking, no sarcasm, no rude comments. (I mean, we joke and have a good time, but we know when to be serious and he knows when I am being serious and doesn't hide his feelings with sarcasm).

Today is our two week anniversary of when we met/started dating. It's also two weeks since I ended things with "B." It's so scary how easily I was able to forget him and move on. Then again, how I can miss something that was never really there?

I never really knew how badly "B" had screwed me up when it came to relationships. I guess I never really fully trusted him. I never realized how dysfunctional we were. And now that I have something really fantastic, I am scared out of my mind that I will lose it. And this something I don't think I could bare to lose.

Is it possible to be best friends with someone after only 2 weeks?? And be madly, crazy about them? :) 10-4 over and out..... I am SO glad it's the weekend.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

It's Great to Feel Appreciated........

I just received these from a client..... The card read, "Sorry for all the stress we caused you these last two weeks, but you handled it well." How sweet is that????

How Rude, Obnoxious, Annoying is This???

Today is my bosses birthday. My co-worker and I (since I started) have always gone in together on a gift because he is REALLY hard to buy for and completely LOADED and can buy himself pretty much anything he wants. This year we came up with the perfect idea. He always puts his food/drinks/etc in someone else's mini fridge. So we bought him his own this year. We were so excited about this gift and totally thought we had outdone ourselves.

He just came over to us and asked is we could return it. He doens't want it. I sh** you not.

Can you believe it??? Are poor people the only people with class? LOL.

10-4 over and out.

Wednesday, September 13, 2006

Butter......... Parkay.

G'morning Kids & Porn Stars - Happy Hump Day! I know I haven't blogged a lot lately and when I have they were short posts and in "code." Well today I need to share some exciting news with you.... I have started a little part time venture. I am currently a part time sales rep for Fantasia Home Parties. I have several parties set up and I am currently awaiting my training kit and I need some definitive dates for my first 5 shin-digs. This past weekend, Midge and I had the opportunity to attend one of their 4 sales rallies down in NJ. Our manager sprung for dinner and a hotel room the evening before the rally. Actually let me just give you a full weekend recap.
Friday - At some point during the week I received an e-mail from PPPE, "Let's get drunk this weekend." That was all I needed, so I agreed. Friday afternoon we decided we would go out around 10PM, where was another story. After work I headed home to nap and prepare for a late evening. Nap was not accomplished. I just have not been sleeping very well lately (and for me to not be sleeping, you know something must be up!) So I got ready and picked him up and we decided on staying close to home. We headed over to Rhodes and immediately realized it was probably a mistake. There was a band playing music we didn't know and a few people we knew from H.S. enjoying some beverages. We had one drink and split. We decided it was time to head over to Ireland's. The last place we wanted to go, but there was really nothing else "close." We caught up on our going's on (I learned he has a girlfriend of 3 months - WTF??) and enjoyed some frosty beverages. DB called and was going to stop by to see me and I was pretty bombed. (Three drinks will do that to me, LOL). I was so thrilled to see him pull up. PPPE really liked him. Unfortunately for PPPE, as soon as DB and I saw each other, we wanted to leave and be alone. (To talk you piggies!!!!) I dropped him off at home and met DB at my place. We sat in his car for a few hours and talked. We had our fist "fight," if that's even what you can call it. However, I think it was just stemming from two people who wanted to just sleep, but not leave one another's company. I wound up getting in at 3 AM and crashed.

Saturday - Woke up feeling blue and tired. I wasn't sure if the tiff would carry over or if it was really just nothing serious. I messaged with my Midge to make our plans for the evening. I napped for the afternoon and packed a small bag for the evenings festivities. I picked up Midge around 6PM and we were off. It was nice to see her and catch up on what had been going on for the last week. We were the first to arrive, so we headed up to our room to unpack a little and relax momentarily while deciding on where to eat dinner. When we finally got downstairs to eat, our new boss and co-worker had arrived. So we wound up hitting a Bennigans with them. We had some yummy appetizers and drinks and then I was too full for my actual meal. Oh well. Midge and I had a rough night the night before, so we wanted to just head back to the hotel and sleep. So not what our original plan was. LOL. We were both passed out by 11PM. It was good though since we had training at 9AM the next morning.

Sunday - Woke up on time (thanks to the wake up call) and attended our training an lunch in. Learned about the new products and got to play with them :). It was nice to talk to the other sales reps and learn about the company and all the money I am going to make. The only downfall was the ass grabbing that went on when Parkay grabbed my bodacious buns - not once - TWICE! If she was cute, MAYBE it would be a different story, but EW!!!!! We got back semi early and I rested up and relaxed for my night out with DB. I don't understand how or why, but every time I am with him I feel closer and closer to him. I can tell him anything and him me. I long to hold his hand, touch his face, kiss his lips. I am so totally smitten and so in love with this boy. It can only get better (I hope). I just got back from having lunch with him and it saddened me to leave him. I crave him so badly... That's probably why I am not eating or sleeping lately. :) Wish me luck with this one!

10-4 over and out...... Find a happy place. :)

"How Are Youuuuu?"

Hey Kids & Porn Stars.... Another great night with DB. I just don't think things can get any better than this. :) And now we have a few "dates" set up through October. I really think I love this boy. I just can't imagine sitting in a car, listening to Howard Stern with anyone else.

Looking forward to lunch tomorrow. I <3 you. XOXO

You'd think he read this site the way I write..... LOL. He doesn't. Maybe some day. This is why I can be completely honest here. I LOVE HIM, I LOVE HIM, I LOVE HIM, and I don't care what you think (Jerry Maguire). LOL. I can honestly say I don't think I have EVER been this happy in my entire life. I want the whole world to feel like I do right at this very moment.

10-4 over and out.

Monday, September 11, 2006

A Night To.... Scratch that. TOTALLY SMITTEN.

G'Afternoon Kids & Porn Stars.... Yet another great night in Bethany Land. I am stuck at work right now - exhausted - and the only thing getting me through is thinking about last night. I don't have time to blog about everything and some details are best left to ourselves. Let's just say, I am a very, very happy Bethany.

To you Drummer Boy, you know who you are and you are the only person who has ever been able to put a smile like that on my face. You truly are a wonderful, intelligent, funny, talented person - you are the whole package. You totally have me smitten and leave me wanting more. I can't wait to see you again. :)

10-4 over and out.

Friday, September 08, 2006

A Night to Remember Part Deux....

Is it possible to have two of the best nights of my life back-to-back? Is it possible that what I consider "the best" was just two people sitting and talking in a car....? I have never felt healthier, happier, more alive than I do right now. I feel like the last three years are already forgotten and I have truly met my "Match." I was looking in all the wrong places for my soul mate. Don't get me wrong, I am frightened of things going wrong and ruining things and getting hurt, but for some reason this just feels so right... I can't believe how quickly things change. Will I ever get this smile off my face? I don't think so...

This even has mom's seal of approval.

10-4 over and out.

Thursday, September 07, 2006

A Night to Remember.....

Feels like I have always known you
And I swear I dreamt about you
All those endless nights I was alone
It's like I've spent forever searching
Now I know that it was worth it
With you it feels like I am finally home

Falling head over heels
Thought I knew how it feels
But with you it's like the first day of my life

Cuz you leave me speechless when you talk to me
You leave me breathless the way you look at me
You manage to disarm me, my soul is shining through
Can't help but surrender my everything to you

I thought I could resist you
I thought that I was strong

Somehow you were different from what I've known
I didn't see you coming
You took me by surprise and
You stole my heart before I could say no

Falling head over heels
Thought I knew how it feels
But with you it's like the first day of my life

You leave me speechless when you talk to me
You leave me breathless the way you look at me
You manage to disarm me, my soul is shining through
I can't help but surrender my everything to you

You leave me speechless (the way you smile, the way you touch my face)
You leave me breathless (it's something that you do I can't explain)
I run a million miles just to hear you say my name

You leave me speechless
You leave me breathless (the way you look at me)
You manage to disarm me, my soul is shining through
I can't help but surrender my everything to you

OMG. A great night indeed.... It was a night like I've never had before. <3

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

What's Goes on in the Mind of Bethany.....

The devil on one shoulder, the Angel on the other. Both fighting to control my thoughts and feelings. If only decisions were easy. If only life was easy. If only romance wasn't tragic and people didn't suck. God I hate "B." Well life has a funny way of sneaking up on you.....

Oh these little rejections how they add up quickly
One small sideways look and I feel so ungood
Somewhere along the way I think I gave you the power to make
Me feel the way I thought only my father could

Oh these little rejections how they seem so real to me
One forgotten birthday I'm all but cooked
How these little abandonments seem to sting so easily
I'm 13 again am I 13 for good?

I can feel so unsexy for someone so beautiful
So unloved for someone so fine
I can feel so boring for someone so interesting
So ignorant for someone of sound mind

Oh these little protections how they fail to serve me
One forgotten phone call and I'm deflated
Oh these little defenses how they fail to comfort me
Your hand pulling away and I'm devastated

When will you stop leaving baby?
When will I stop deserting baby?
When will I start staying with myself?

Oh these little projections how they keep springing from me
I jump my ship as I take it personally
Oh these little rejections how they disappear quickly
The moment I decide not to abandon me

~Hands Clean~
If it weren't for your maturity none of this would have happened
If you weren't so wise beyond your years I would've been able to control myself
If it weren't for my attention you wouldn't have been successful and
If it weren't for me you would never have amounted to very much

Ooh this could be messy
But you don't seem to mind
Ooh don't go telling everybody
And overlook this supposed crime

We'll fast forward to a few years later
And no one knows except the both of us
And I have honored your request for silence
And you've washed your hands clean of this

You're essentially an employee and I like you having to depend on me
You're kind of my protégé and one day you'll say you learned all you know from me
I know you depend on me like a young thing would to a guardian
I know you sexualize me like a young thing would and I think I like it

Ooh this could get messy
But you don't seem to mind

Ooh don't go telling everybody
And overlook this supposed crime

We'll fast forward to a few years later
And no one knows except the both of us
And I have honored your request for silence
And you've washed your hands clean of this

What part of our history's reinvented and under rug swept?
What part of your memory is selective and tends to forget?
What with this distance it seems so obvious?

Just make sure you don't tell on me especially to members of your family
We best keep this to ourselves and not tell any members of our inner posse
I wish I could tell the world cuz you're such a pretty thing when you're done
Up properly
I might want to marry you one day if you watch that weight and keep your firm

Ooh this could be messy and
Ooh I don't seem to mind
Ooh don't go telling everybody
And overlook this supposed crime

I'm not getting back tofether with "B." This much I know. I am not even sure at this point that I want to be his friend. However, do I want to be a homewrecker? Again? I so don't... So why do I feel so torn? What is the hold this guy has over me? What is wrong with my head??

Monday, September 04, 2006

An Interesting Turn of Events….

G’Late evening Kids & Porn Stars, happy September…. And for all you Teachers out there, nanny, nanny poo-poo, it’s back to school for you. To all you parents out there, congratulations on getting your kids out of the house, LOL.

So what’s been going on in the world of Bethany since last I blogged? Hmmm, let me begin.

My Carrie Girl flew home for a few days as a surprise for Maggie Sue’s wedding. I spent a lot of quality time with her and my Kel-Kel and it was awesome. I didn’t realize how much I missed Carrie…. It has been 10 years. She looked exactly the same and had the same sense of humor and caring quality about it. I am so glad she is back in my life (forgive me if I use this term a lot, this might be a sappy post, LOL). Maggie figured out her surprise, so that element was ruined, but we made the most of it. Of course, I spent close to 3 days preparing for Maggie Sue’s wedding (dress, shoes, nails, pedicure, etc) and I was so excited to be going to a second wedding with “B.” I found the perfect dress and shoes and I was so excited to be on his arm.

The night before the wedding Kel-Kel took Carrie to the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. After the dinner, Carrie called me and said they were at a bar 2 seconds from my house – I had to come out and get her. We needed to party. When I arrived, the bride looked none-too-happy to see me. Carrie was bombed and there was noticeable tension in the air. It felt worse when I sat down. I got the nagging suspicion I was not wanted. Shortly before midnight, the bride-to-be left and I decided I just wanted to get out of there. I went home pissed off because I couldn’t understand the tension – or why I was invited to the wedding.
The day of the wedding came and Carrie and I shopped around getting her last minute details done (nails, booze, etc). We had fun chatting all day and I came to what I thought was an important decision about my gift for Maggie. There was just too much tension between us and I didn’t think a friendship was to be had.

I stressed about getting ready in time – waited for “B” who finally showed up at 5. I just needed to get the shoes on and we were off. No “You look beautiful,” no, “You look nice,” no nothing from him. I had to ask for a compliment. That should have been my clue for the tone of the evening.

The ceremony was nice and Maggie’s dress was beautiful. I saw her brother Dooda, who was like a big brother to me, after not seeing him for about 10 years. It was nice to see him again… I loved the short service and was looking forward to the open bar and spending the night with my girls and “B.” We got back to the hotel and enjoyed the cocktail hour. Finally it was time to head into the reception room and get our dance on. It seemed like the night flew by…. I am sure it did for the bride and groom. Here are some snippets from the evening:
1. “B” never once danced with me.
2. “B” disappeared to the bar and continually PAID for his beers even though it was OPEN BAR. It was Yankees Vs. Boston that night. SO??? I needed him!
3. “B” drank beer which does nothing to him and I paid $100 for the friggin hotel room.
4. “B” made several comments over and over as to how he was NEVER going to marry me. He embarrassed me in front of Kel-Kel’s whole family and made a horrible first impression to Carrie.
5. “B” hit on a woman when he finally came into the reception room and didn’t even flinch when I walked by.
6. When I finally confronted him at the bar, he continued to stay seated and would not come back to the reception with me.
7. When he finally came back in, it was last dance of the night. Did he ask me to dance? No. We fought instead.
8. I was hit on by two married men. My head was huge that night and “B” totally took down a notch. Especially since he was the only eye I wanted to catch.
9. I was treated badly by the bride’s mom, but that was to be expected. I caught up on the last 10 years with her bro’s and we had a good time in the bar after the reception.
10. “B” finally came to me and apologized. However, the night was already ruined.

He was drinking, so let him stay. We chatted with Dooda a bit before heading to bed. Dooda made several mentions at his disdain for “B.” The next morning we woke up and went for some breakfast. My whole idea of what the evening would be was ruined. Kel-Kel had a BBQ at her place that day and Carrie, myself, Andrea, Midge, Erica, and Mama Marshland was there. We recapped the wedding events and just caught up on old time and good times. It was a really pleasant evening. I <3 my girls.
I didn’t hear from “B” again. I went the whole week after the wedding with no calls, no e-mails, nothing. I didn’t call him either.

The following weekend – 25th and 26th, I headed out with Peter-Peter Pumpkin Eater Friday night and Saturday night I did dinner with my girls (Kel-Kel, Midge and Phan) and we enjoyed some drinkies and interesting conversations…. We also had to pick up our supplies from Midge. :) I love me some supplies!! LOL.
Sunday I finally got to see JKB007 for some lunchies. More good times.

I’m a busy gal!

Maggie Sue and I worked out our differences during this time as well and I am glad that we could let bygones be bygones. She's a freking married woman now and in time soon, she will be someone's mom. Wow.... How time flies and how things change.

Monday the 28th came and I e-mailed “B,” only to find he is on vacation all week. How nice. I called him 3 times during the week, to no avail.

Tuesday night I headed out with my work girlies for some dinner and reading with Psychic Francine. Another good reading and more great conversations…. I <3 my work girlies. Blade, Kimmy, SVU, & Danster. Our little foursome is expanding….

Friday night I knew was going to be good times – I only wished Kel-Kel could be there. On my way home from work I decided it would take al my will power, but I was not going to contact “B” again. As if he could sense it, he calls and I miss the call. We play phone tag through the evening. Around 8:30, I headed out with Erica, Andrea, and Midge to see a great Reggae band Midge knew of. I wasn’t sure I was going to make it an all nighter, but I plugged on. We headed over to Nyack and it looked like it might be a dud evening. We had up front seats, drinks, and some good things to laugh at. We had a second round. Then a nice young man came up to me offering to purchase myself and my girls some drinks. I happily obliged. Then I had another. I waved at the drummer. Mmmmm, love drummers. We decided (my girls and this guy that bought us drinks and his two friends) headed over to a “dance club” nearby. We got a free drink for entering and being chicks – hot! We danced and had a good time. After a short while I wanted to ditch the boys to go meet more, so we headed back to our original place. I feel a tap on my shoulder as I get back from using the ladies room.
“Bethany?,” this chubby, blonde, curly haired girl asks.
“Yes,” I respond.
“Hi – do you know who I am?,” she asks.
“No clue…..,” I say.
“I’m “R’s” neighbor, Julie,” she says. “You’re like ‘who the hell is this??’ Haha.”
I finally realize she is “B’s” neighbor that likes to leave him the little love notes. “B” likes to go by 2 different names. We’ve already established he beats to his own drum and is a weird dude.
“You are “R’s” FRIEND, right?,” she asks.
“Oh, hi,” I say. “How are you? Don’t tell “B” I am here. And, by the way, I am “B’s” girlfriend of 3 years. Not his friend,” I reply.
“Oh (insert snotty/confused look) are you on a date or something??,” She asks.
“No, girls night out,” I say.
This is the end of conversation at this point. She then proceeds to point at me and whisper to her friend. And laugh. C**T. I explain to Midge who she is. She comes by Midge and I so I try to make small talk so I can pick her brain. She gives me a rude answer to a question and walks away. She then proceeds to whisper and stare for the rest of the evening. So, I made a point of making a show. I grinded the Reggae singer. Danced with two guys I met. Then, for shits and giggles, I made out with the drummer before we left. F*** “B.” I had enough. I invited him to the next bar we were heading on to and we were out.
In the car ride I proceeded to call “B” and tell him off. Both on the home phone and his cell phone. We arrived at the next bar and I made a “friend” who purchased me a beverage and then my drummer arrived. He and I went outside and talked for a while. I told him about “B,” we hugged, we talked some more, and then headed back inside. The girls looked ready to go (I felt bad making them wait!) Drummer Boy says to Midge, “I’ll make sure Bethany gets home OK. Don’t worry.” Did I mention he’s a cop? LOL.

He drove me home and we exchanged #’s. A bitter sweet end to a rough night.

I woke up Saturday morning to an e-mail from him. <3
I also woke up with food poisoning. How can I tell it wasn’t a hangover? I was sober when I got home. I spent the day with Mama Dukes. I wanted to stay close to home.

Sunday was spent with Kel-Kel and RyRy. We did a little tux shopping, LOL, then headed over to Andrea’s job for some lunchies. Alas, she wasn’t there. We chowed down on some fine Olive Garden eats and then headed back to their house. Kel-Kel and I watched a chick flick and then had some good old fashioned girl talk. I needed it. I headed home late in the night and was getting ready to get some sleepies when my cell rang. Drummer Boy. We chatted for a ½ hour or so before his shift and made tentative plans to see one another again. I think I’m in love. Too bad he’s married. Oh, did I forget to mention that? Yep Kids, Bethany is VERY unlucky in love.

Today is Labor Day and I actually did a tone of work around the house, had some yummy dinner eats with The OC and some more girl talk and some rehashing of the Married man issue, and then I came home to do actual work. What a thrilling 3 day weekend, LOL.

So, I just got off the phone with “B.” He said he never returned my calls from Friday because I told him to never call me again and he took it literally. He claims he never slept with Fatty le Blonde. We had nothing to say to one another. We ended the conversation with “have a good night,” and “take care.” It is SSSOOO over. Maybe I should date the married Drummer Boy. Doesn’t look like I will be getting married or having children any time soon. Argh……… 10-4 over and out.